In two weeks I had a visitor.
A good friend of mine from Switzerland was headed down here to Korea for 2 weeks in the beginning of July. As soon as Marco confirmed that he bought his flight, my first reaction was “sweet!”.
I found myself thinking about how incredible it was that Marco, Sary and I were still friends. We met while attending the same university back in 2009, but after one semester, they both came back to their country. They had been exchange student in Chung-ang University. They chose to take the more traditional path(Marco has focused to get CFA and I was told by Marco that Sary got a job) and has lived in Swiss and I’ve spend those years like they have been doing same.
The more I thought about it, the more I am amazed that we are still friends.
Maintaining friendships, especially those friends from the years we spend growing up and going to school, is difficult under normal circumstances, let alone when one of you is never in the country. But it’s not impossible.
I know that this is a very real concern for a lot of people who might be interested in long term friendships, moving overseas or even just moving to a new city. It’s quite difficult to part with close friends ?and it’s often frightening to think about having to?maintain the relationships.
But here’s what I’ve learned during the past 5 years, and it applies to anyone thinking about embracing the concept of international friendship.
You will never lose your true Friends
Sometimes I don’t see my closed friends for two or three years at a time, but that doesn’t affect the strength of our friendship. My true friends are those people that I can’t Imagine not having as friends. I care about what is going on in their lives at all times and they care about what is happening in mine. We may be distant both lifestyle decisions and geographical location, or we may be similar, but it doesn’t affect the friendship.
We respect each other, we can rely on each other and we know that no decision we each make in our lives can change that. I’m not saying that it doesn’t take some effort to maintain these friendships, especially when you’are away from these friends most of time, but I can make it happen in despite of the seeming impossibility.
Before snapping into the real posting, I really want to be reminded about what happened ?in Switzerland by 4 years ago blog post.
Here is the reminding 5 post as below.
?This photo was taken when I visited Marco’s parents.
Taken when we visited TK’s Syndrome.
This Food has been called “Dak-ddong-jip”
In the subway with “Han”
In “Bong-gu Beer”
We have been staying together in my studio located on Sindaebang.
Korean Traditional Foods with AMY in Sinsa Garosu-gil.
?No explanation necessary.
Bowling match. We didn’t expect AMY was going to win. She the best yes.
“Prost” with AMY
?We are heading for Tong-Yong
My father has been working as German Literature professor for the last 20 years. Marco’s mother language is German. They are talking with in German.
Drinking party with the amazing Tong-yong night view.
Busan station with Soo.
My cousin “Chang-bo” and Marco
Japanese Spaghetti Restaurant
?The two of us has a farewell party.
He is leaving for Incheon International airport.